Jealousy is a misunderstood emotion that has the power to destroy relationships. What people don’t know is that we can actually use gratitude to heal jealousy.
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The True Meaning of Jealousy
Jealousy is one of the emotions that get a really bad rap, but when we understand our jealousy we can use it as a tool. Jealousy happens when you see something that you want for yourself that on some level you don’t believe you can have. Really, jealousy is just a form of fear and scarcity, the fear that we are missing something or that there isn’t enough for us to enjoy as well.
This is different than envy which is when we see something someone else has that we want, and we don’t believe they’re worthy of it. Envy is an emotion that you’d want to work through, jealousy is an emotion that can be used as a tool.
What is gratitude?
Gratitude is a feeling or practice that allows you to experience joy and appreciation. When we’re in a state of gratitude we are vibrating an expansive energy.
How Gratitude Can Heal Jealousy
When we look at the human emotion frequency scale we can see that jealousy (or fear) emits a low vibrational energy. Gratitude is higher up on the scale and is one of the top emotions energetically. When we’re feeling jealousy (fear) we can use gratitude as a way to heal and bring us back up the energetic ladder.
1. Show Gratitude for Your Jealousy
As we’ve already learned, jealousy is simply highlighting our desires (how cool is that?!). When we’re feeling jealous it’s really just our brain’s way of signaling to us “Hey! This is something you really want”. Learning to take a step back at the moment and recognizing the desire is key. Thank your jealousy for coming up and showing you what’s important or desired.
2. Know That What’s Possible for Others is Possible for You
If someone has or does something you want for example: your best friend just got engaged or your cousin adopted a baby. This means it’s totally possible for you as well. Anything that anyone does or has proves that it is possible to achieve.
Of course, everyone’s path looks different and sometimes our goals manifest in unexpected ways. Landing your dream job could mean months of unemployment, and having a kid might come in the form of fostering or co-parenting instead of pregnancy. The key is knowing and believing that if someone else has it then you can have it too, you just need to be open to the possibilities of how it happens.
3. Be Grateful for What Others Have
You can also use jealousy as a tool for understanding what you truly desire. If what you desire has already been achieved by someone else, then it means it’s totally possible for you! You can use other people’s success as a blueprint for achieving it yourself, now that is something to be grateful for. Instead of stewing in jealousy, you can practice being grateful. You don’t need to tell someone you’re grateful for their achievements but you can express your happiness and support for them.
In Summary:
- Feeling jealousy doesn’t make you a bad person, you can use your jealousy as a tool for discovering what you want.
- Gratitude is a feeling or practice that allows you to experience joy and appreciation.
- We can choose to practice gratitude when we’re feeling jealous.
- Gratitude will expand what’s possible for us and bring our desires closer, whereas jealousy will push them further away.
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